The thrill of being watched or watching someone during sex can drive an entirely different set of erotic chemicals rushing through our bodies than what usually occurs during sex. Many people have voyeuristic fantasies, but relatively few indulge themselves with the pleasure of acting them out. For those of you who have had such fantasies and would like to try things out, here are some of the benefits of being the watcher or the one being watched.
For Those Who Like Being Watched
There are those of us who like to be watched while we have sex with our partner or when we pleasure ourselves on our own. We’re the ones who like to be watched. Perhaps because it feels wrong, perhaps because it feels naughty, perhaps to entice or tease the watcher. It doesn’t really matter why. It’s simply a highly erotic and sensual experience to be watched by someone. The risk of being judged combine with the eroticism of being desired, resulting in an addictive elixir that’s hard to forget.
If you’ve never been watched before, consider trying one of these options to delve into the world of voyeurism:
- Have your partner watch you masturbate. If you’re timid, start by blindfolding yourself so you don’t see your partner watching. Once you build your confidence you can look them right in the eye as you get yourself off.
- Ask your partner if you can watch them. If you’re too shy to start off with the first option, try being the watcher and see how that feels. You’ll likely want to try being the watched.
For Those Who Like Being The Watcher
From the standpoint of the watching, seeing your partner get themselves off without you can be an incredible turn on. You’ll likely experience an irresistible urge to help out, which can be a highly erotic tormenting experience if you’re tied up and unable to join in.
Bringing In Others
For those who have experimented with watching their partner or being the watcher, you might consider upping the ante by being watched as a couple. That usually takes much more confidence than playing with your partner. You might ask a single person to watch you, or another couple. Whether you choose people you barely know to be the watchers or people you’re really comfortable with is up to you. Each couple should talk about which option to pursue. There’s a different dynamic to each type of scenario, so experiment with different options and see what you and your partner enjoy the most.
Additional Power Plays
For an extra level of spice in the bedroom, tie your partner to a chair or the bed as you masturbate. This type of play increases the eroticism of the experience for many, as it introduces a different dynamic. If you’ve asked someone else to watch you and your partner as a couple, experiment with tying up the watcher or your partner for additional fun.
There are other variations of voyeuristic endeavors that I’ll cover in future articles. Many of these involve watching your partner with another person. These types of experiences can be quite rewarding when you’re ready for them.
Whatever you do, I hope you embrace the desires you have and have the courage to act on them. Doing so will enhance your enjoyment of sex and life in general.